Sure, I’ve had boyfriends, lovers, long and short relationships. I learned and practiced what I wanted and didn’t with every one of them. Like looking for my ideal parents, I had to reach inside of me and create what I wanted.
Some believe we choose to incarnate when and where we do for purpose. We choose the people who will be in our lives before we’re even born because we have to create an experience to learn from. There are lessons and there are contracts. The lessons and contracts are set about to bring on the experiences and outcomes we desire, or need to fulfill.
I know my parents are who I chose because I needed them to help me go through everything I went through. They were a safe place to feel what I needed to, and provided the stability I needed while I went through it. And they helped me create the outcome of positive relationship and dynamic that I wanted. My soul was ready to release anger in order be a higher vibrational being, and step into the higher master that I really am. My parents were critical in that growth.
I’ve lived so many lives as a slave, as the abused and broken down. I was ready for more. I said NO to victimhood, and I said YES to a life of worth and deserving. I wasn’t able to meet Ken until I was ready to let go of victimhood. If I had met Ken still in that mindset we wouldn’t be the power couple that we are. I would have continued in patterns of self sabotage and misalignment. I had to learn my worth and feel good about myself before I could meet Ken. I had to be able to take care of myself before meeting Ken, or I would have fallen back into a pattern of being controlled, and not in control. I had to learn to love myself, want badly enough for myself before I was able to receive. Accepting myself, and being in trust, opened me up to allowing Ken into my life. To actualize the life of ease and flow I am ready for.
Ken had his fair share of experiences and had to say NO too. Like me, he was ready for the next big thing. Ken and I don’t have a perfect relationship, but we both know what we want and don’t. We each recognize where the misalignments are, and we both respect ourselves to the degree for which we need in order to say NO, and let go. We’re both strong enough to say YES to ourselves so that we can say yes to US. We’re walking on this journey together, supporting each other, helping each other grow. We have a partnership that we’re committed to.
We’ve each taken our personal healing journeys as far we could, and we were each ready to go deeper. We’re both ready to step fully into our power, and we each have the tools and resources the other needs – together we complete a range. With the commitment to growth and partnership we each posses, we pull those tools and resources, and together we’re creating something bigger than ourselves.