Your Relationships and Self Dynamics – What is being mirrored back to you? and Why?

January’s installation for Experience Tuesdays 2021

Every once in a while you meet someone, and you feel something special. Because they remind you of yourself – where you were once, and it helps you realize that you have in fact grown. You realize you have advice for this person, and you want to take them under your wing. You feel a strong connection, and your compassion is showing you where you can serve.

At times we connect with others because we’re in a similar situation, and you feel you could support each other through the process. And sometimes you’re drawn to someone because you feel a connection that you can’t explain. You notice you always feel better when you’re around them and talking to them. Chances are they’re on the other end of my first example – and they are placing you under their wing.

What is it exactly that’s happening? You are being shown your multi-dimensional, multi-faceted self. Their age, gender, social status, career, intelligence, or any other physical trait doesn’t need to apply. It’s the spiritual connection, your personal experience, that’s presenting itself. It’s good to observe where you’re at in all 3 of these scenarios. There comes a point when you might even notice you have each of these mirrors aimed at you.

(image credit Yeshi Kangrang / Unsplash)

Let’s take the classic parent / child example. At some point, we all realize that the child becomes the parent – to the parent, and the parent becomes the learner or the one in need. I read a long time ago about parents to want their children to have more than what they had. These types of parents are great providers.

There are parents who don’t yet have their shit together, and struggle to provide for and allow for better opportunities for their children. These children become self taught and go on to achieving more, or they stay on par with their parents and fail to break the cycle. Usually if there are siblings, they’re opposite (or differnt enough) of each other in terms of values and truths that the difference is palpable, and there’s conversation around it.

I see what I want, and what I’m capable of giving to my dogs. Because family life is different than my social and professional relationships. With my dogs I probably go overboard on what I provide, that’s because I always felt I didn’t have value in my family, I was the lowest ranked. I both felt it and it was shown to me via gesture and language by my family. When it comes to pets, my family can be a little slow to give the attention and nurturing they need and I can feel it. Instead my family overfeeds them with their idea of love in the form of food and treats, rewarding them with their own misplaced priorities.

There are mentors, coaches, and accountabilty partners that we find for ourselves. These are more intentionally matched and prove to meet our needs when we identify the direction we know we want to be headed. We are guided because they are able to succesfully reflect to us what we are asking for; and what it will take to get us there.

It’s fairly common to acknowledge that romantic relationships by far mirror to us who we want to be. There are roles, labels, and responsibilties that come with the investment. And as the dynamic plays out, the mirrors and facets become highlighted. Most of our growth comes from what intimacy and expectation reveals. Sometimes with our partners our beliefs (real or adopted) about who we think we’re supposed to be rule the relationship; and not always necessarily who we want or need to be, but who we have become, or need to become to be that person. We may even lose ourselves in the misalignment.

Social friendships can also be considered intimate – we tend to explore our desires and certain parts of ourselves through exploration, questioning, and ranking (comparison) with people we trust. We allow our vulnerability to surface because we’re searching for an outlet for support from an unbiased position.

Professional relationships can be tricky. There are many ways professional relationships teach us things. There’s a hierarchy and a sort of disconnect at play. And it’s up to us to determine if we need it to align with our wants, needs, and the hierarchies; or we can decide to table it until the next day or the next encounter. When it comes to professional relationships we have the choice to invest in observation and support, or not.

All of our relationships show us our courage and strength up close. Where do you speak up?, and where do you listen? Where do you put your effort and attention? Why?

This month I’m asking you to go a little deeper, and start figuring out “What’s being mirrored to me?” Healing around it happens when you address it. Otherwise, you’re just gonna keep on going at the pace and space you are, running the risk of not meeting your authentic self, or knowing true happiness.

As a high schooler I was told one of the best ways to learn something I was struggling with was to try to teach it to someone else. You have to be able to connect with the information. And it helps when that information hits home on a personal level. You’ll find that you come up with unique examples and stories to get the other person to get it. One of the biggest eye-openers for me when certifying to be a coach was the advice to write about every session I have with a client – to recall and reference what the session entailed, what the client accomplished or didn’t, to remark on shifts and progress, if anything was assigned to do before our next session, and any other observations and recommendations. The added advice was to then honestly write about what the client and the session taught me. What did I learn?, and/or what do I need to learn? in order to be able to continue to be the right professional and support person this client needs. To know when it’s time to make a referal.

As I started this practice I quickly learned that I was still very much a student. And It is this advice that I apply to myself, in all of lifes opportunities and teaching moments, with al lof my relationships. Especially my self relationship.

I hope you find this months videos and conversations helpful. Please join my Mind Body Spirit class on January 12th – which will bring this to you with a new perspective and reason to keep exploring and expanding. Then, I wrap up the month with a group healing, that will provide what you need for your growth. For more information, tune in, and ask. I am here for you.

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner, and 3 time author. Lisa is able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship. To learn more about Experience Tuesdays 2021, find it on Lisa’s social channels.

Volume 3 is due out October 1st!

I’m so excited!!  

Volume 3 is almost here! 

I am so truly honored to have participated in this powerful and impactful project – in both volumes one and three. In a most epic time in our personal history, me and a bunch of other authors have come together to deliver something wonderful and amazing – healing tools for you to use at home. In each book in the series, holistic healers and experts share their personal stories, and provide a tool that you can have in your hands, to explore and practice at home. This book series is ahead of the curve in providing expert health and wellness, all in one place. 

In volume one, I wrote chapter one, on Consciousness. 
In volume three, I share in one place for the first time, about the life changing events that brought on my complex PTSD, and how I began my healing journey. 

And that’s exactly what these books can do for you – jumpstart your healing journey; or give you more insight, inspiration, and practical application for growth. 

Of course it’s not too late, you can still purchase the first two books. In fact, Amazon will bundle them for you. 

Be sure to stay tuned in to my Facebook page for more information: on how to purchase the book, and get into the special VIP Facebook group. In this special VIP Facebook group you get to meet each author, access free classes about each of our tools, get signed up for give-aways, receive party invitations, and so much more!! We’re creating a bright community. To gain access to the VIP group, simply save your receipt from purchase (ebook or paperback), and send proof of purchase to me, and I’ll make sure you get in! 

Can you believe it – volume 4 is next!! That’s a whole lot o’ tools to have in your hands. 

The books make great gifts! 

Aaannnddd  I have, in my hands, signed copies by me for you to purchase. You can purchase directly from me and still get into the VIP group. I will mail you your copy as long as you are in the US. 

I would love it if you could support me, and share this information with others who you feel will benefit from having these powerful books. 
For signed copies, please email me.


Lisa Karasek, two time author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach. Lisa is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.

Introducing new RAA Teacher, Lisa Karasek!

Does this describe you? You’re beginning to wake up to some long hidden sides of yourself that you didn’t realize affected you, or the way you do life. Now what?
You ask questions. And you scrutinize those questions with a fine-toothed comb.
 
As you begin to explore the depths of your soul’s desires, and maybe even your purpose for this sudden awareness, you will need to build in some structure and some organization to your process.
 
What I have found is most people identify with concepts, but they don’t actually attempt the work behind turning the concept into something real and tangible for themselves.
 
I invite you to explore your personal beliefs, and determine what consciousness work will do for you. Each of us behave from beliefs, habits, mechanisms, and patterns that we have adopted from our relationships. We also carry with us what has been handed down to us from our ancestors. There is a lot in this lifetime alone that you could explore – like issues around social stigmatizing, family dynamics, environmental and cultural influences, and more.
 
There are places inside all of us that stir up struggle. If you find yourself asking big questions when you’re hurting, then this is a class for you. I invite you to join me for my new class, Consciousness Mapping, where we will address your personal traumatic imprint, provide positive exercises for you to identify what it is ready to be healed, and learn how you can turn your heart’s desires into a positive healing journey.

About the class:

The process of Consciousness Mapping helps you to understand on a deep level why you make the decisions you do, uncover the roots of your “triggers,” and helps you shift to a powerful, aligned state of being.

Develop and nurture your personal experience by connecting to your authentic truth and purpose. Healing, and overcoming limiting beliefs are mindfully conscious practices that will align you positively with your soul’s deepest desires.

In this class you will:

  • Learn how life events create a map for how you act, be, and do in life
  • Identify how the unspoken dynamics of your relationships affect your ability to live authentically
  • Develop personal strategies for mindfulness and how to apply them

Mapping your conscious awareness provides focus for and more deeply tunes you in to all that is possible.


 Offered through the Academy, via Zoom:

June 14th

July 2nd

July 11th

August 6th

August 15th

This process of being human

There I was in the shower, completely exhausted. I’m not gonna make it I thought. I had zero energy left in me.

My arm is in a cast, and my cast is inside a waterproof cover for the shower. The cast is heavy, and my arm is just hanging there. I don’t have the energy to hold it against my belly. My good arm is also heavy. It’s tired and sore. It’s exhausted. 

“Limb fatigue is a real thing“ Laura explained to me. She’s a PT, and was explaining to me that the arm I’m using is exhausted from using it so much.

I have limited range of motion. And it’s feeling like dead weight. It’s so sore I don’t even want to try to move it.

It’s been a few days and I need this shower. Since the cast has been on I’ve only had a few. While each one of those were welcomed and a relief, this one is not. I’m talking myself out of exiting the shower. I’m forcing myself to stand under the shower. I try to relax. Try to enjoy it, it’s a treat, I say. I think about a renowned meditation and awareness practice of allowing the water to wash away my stress and let it go down the drain. I don’t need my stress to go down the drain because I’m not feeling stress. What I’m feeling is exhaustion. I feel a century old, and as though not a minute of it has been spent asleep.

But I have slept. I’ve slept a lot. My body is healing.

I don’t want to but I make myself take soap to my skin. The soap feels like it’s 20 pounds heavy. I feel as though I’m pushing 5000 tons of machinery across a field. Usually I finish my showers with two minutes of cold to balance my nervous system and to draw my energy back in. I seriously consider skipping it. I just want out. 

When I was done I just stood there. My head was hung low and I made absolutely no attempt. In a whisper I said to my mother “I can’t dry myself. You have to do it.”

She put my hair in the turban, and then she dried my body. We took the precautions of removing the cast cover and I returned to my bed.

I’m not weak. I just don’t have any strength.

And so I am reminded that I am mortal. I am reminded that our bodies get worn. Today, I am not independent. No matter what my calendar says, no matter what my responsibilities and commitments are, or what my agenda is, I must rest myself.

It takes great courage to be one with this process of being human, and not fight it. To see yourself so vulnerable, to feel yourself so vulnerable. It takes courage to be in your truth and to be in your reality. To be sober, and not numb. To accept fully what it’s like to be in your body. To surrender.

I promise you that when you go through the exercise of being in your courage, each time it gets easier and easier. Eventually the need to be courageous dwindles. Like breathing, it becomes something you can just do.  You will even get to a point where you’ll notice how you respond, and that turns into inspiration. Then, you’re living as you’re meant to.

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 home practices & tools for peak holistic health & wellness. Author of Quantum Experiences. Lisa is an expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. Find more information about her and her programs at www.LisaKarasek.com

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

and a very Happy New Year to you!