This was my invitation to release expectations today, from an app I have on my phone called 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘗𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯.
It’s timely because I’ve been going through some personal shit, and fighting has been happening with my partner.
This morning was a little rough, and I was practicing observance of where I was, mentally and emotionally, then I opened the app and saw this.
This morning I dove into another process of asking and exploring, and I came to a deeper understanding of I only have duties and responsibilities to myself. Let me share …
I revisited when I was at my lowest and how I practiced finding moments in my days that made me smile. That risk that I took, to force myself to smile was hard. It was uncomfortable, and I fought it. I didn’t want the task of doing for myself. I did for myself and I got burned. Deep inside I didn’t want to smile. I wasn’t sure if I could handle it because I was so used to feeling terrible and worn at that point that the idea of anything differnt in my body seemed impossible and completely out of reach. It would hurt.
It takes the same energy to lift up as it does to put down.
Even though this message was my guidance for today, I invite you to explore along with me. When we pass on, transfer, project, or hand down our duties and responsibilities to others, we’re passing, projecting, etc. – we are in ways excusing and removing ourselves from doing the healing work that’s meant to be done by us, for personal growth and development. We’re getting something out of this transference behavior. We’re creating, and holding onto an 𝘰𝘶𝘵. Mind, Body, and Spirit.
Telling others how they need to be and what they should be doing (for us) distracts and pulls us away from what we need to actually be doing. We’re passing the responsibility buck, and not being accountable. And in this, we suffer and struggle.
It’s a toxic experience for the other person to go through, and it’s toxic to place such a burden on ourselves – constantly needing to juggle and navigate what everyone else is doing to you, leaving ourselves depleted and spent feeling. Exasperation comes to mind.
A few years ago, when I felt broken and bottomed out, I realized I needed to try something (else). I was stagnant. What I was doing – nothing – wasn’t working. All I was doing was making everything everyone else’s responsibility for what I felt and what was happening to me. Those mindsets and behaviors kept me stuck. Nothing was ever going to change, and I was going to be there forever. I knew I needed to push myself. I needed to feel something different. In the beginning, the push felt more like a shove, and I didn’t like it at all. I had to risk change. It was a leap I wanted to take. My pain had become too painful. I held my breath and I jumped.
I had to jump daily in the beginning. In time though, as my body began learning, and started feeling safe in enjoying the new sensations it was experiencing, my mood and my mindsets shifted. I kept going until I learned how it felt to hold myself.
Now I take comfort in creating for myself and I do my best to let go of all else. Because that doesn’t belong to me. It’s not my duty or responsibility to manage what’s not mine.
What do you take on that isn’t yours? Are you ready to give it back?, and place the duty of responsibilty back on them? And ask yourself: Am I capable of supporting them while they learn and explore? It’s the matter of give and receive. It’s relationship.
And what do you force on others, or expect of others, when in reality they’ll never be able to give it to you, or live up to your ideals? Because it’s yours, not theirs. Only you can fully provide for yourself.
Finally, where are you unsatisfied? Where do your disappointments and frustrations come from? These are the pain points from which you begin. Open your eyes, take a deep breath in, feel into where you want to be – and GO!
What can you do today, even if it’s one small act, like finding a smile, that brings you closer to what you really want instead, and ultimately points you in the direction toward your genuine authenticity, and helps you find clarity in reason so you can begin to accept your duties and responsibilities? And actually do it?
It takes practice. One small gesture or risk at a time. Movement is the single thing that creates shift. Try trying a new tool for self care, or create a new habit. In time you will be able to measure your actual progress and you will be closer to feeling and having what you really want. It will be uncomfortable at first, but in time your heart and your feelings will show you otherwise. And as you step into your new personal spaces, you will also be shedding pieces of those fears around abandonment, not being enough, and being alone; and you’ll be letting go of your anger, a little bit at a time.
Lisa Karasek is an expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.
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