Itās timely because Iāve been going through some personal shit, and fighting has been happening with my partner.
This morning was a little rough, and I was practicing observance of where I was, mentally and emotionally, then I opened the app and saw this.
This morning I dove into another process of asking and exploring, and I came to a deeper understanding of I only have duties and responsibilities to myself. Let me share …
I revisited when I was at my lowest and how I practiced finding moments in my days that made me smile. That risk that I took, to force myself to smile was hard. It was uncomfortable, and I fought it. I didn’t want the task of doing for myself. I did for myself and I got burned. Deep inside I didn’t want to smile. I wasn’t sure if I could handle it because I was so used to feeling terrible and worn at that point that the idea of anything differnt in my body seemed impossible and completely out of reach. It would hurt.
It takes the same energy to lift up as it does to put down.
Even though this message was my guidance for today, I invite you to explore along with me. When we pass on, transfer, project, or hand down our duties and responsibilities to others, weāre passing, projecting, etc. – we are in ways excusing and removing ourselves from doing the healing work thatās meant to be done by us, for personal growth and development. Weāre getting something out of this transference behavior. Weāre creating, and holding onto an š°š¶šµ. Mind, Body, and Spirit.
Telling others how they need to be and what they should be doing (for us) distracts and pulls us away from what we need to actually be doing. Weāre passing the responsibility buck, and not being accountable. And in this, we suffer and struggle.
Itās a toxic experience for the other person to go through, and itās toxic to place such a burden on ourselves – constantly needing to juggle and navigate what everyone else is doing to you, leaving ourselves depleted and spent feeling. Exasperation comes to mind.
A few years ago, when I felt broken and bottomed out, I realized I needed to try something (else). I was stagnant. What I was doing – nothing – wasnāt working. All I was doing was making everything everyone elseās responsibility for what I felt and what was happening to me. Those mindsets and behaviors kept me stuck. Nothing was ever going to change, and I was going to be there forever. I knew I needed to push myself. I needed to feel something different. In the beginning, the push felt more like a shove, and I didn’t like it at all. I had to risk change. It was a leap I wanted to take. My pain had become too painful. I held my breath and I jumped.
I had to jump daily in the beginning. In time though, as my body began learning, and started feeling safe in enjoying the new sensations it was experiencing, my mood and my mindsets shifted. I kept going until I learned how it felt to hold myself.
Now I take comfort in creating for myself and I do my best to let go of all else. Because that doesnāt belong to me. Itās not my duty or responsibility to manage whatās not mine.
What do you take on that isnāt yours? Are you ready to give it back?, and place the duty of responsibilty back on them? And ask yourself: Am I capable of supporting them while they learn and explore? It’s the matter of give and receive. It’s relationship.
And what do you force on others, or expect of others, when in reality theyāll never be able to give it to you, or live up to your ideals? Because it’s yours, not theirs. Only you can fully provide for yourself.
Finally, where are you unsatisfied? Where do your disappointments and frustrations come from? These are the pain points from which you begin. Open your eyes, take a deep breath in, feel into where you want to be – and GO!
What can you do today, even if itās one small act, like finding a smile, that brings you closer to what you really want instead, and ultimately points you in the direction toward your genuine authenticity, and helps you find clarity in reason so you can begin to accept your duties and responsibilities? And actually do it?
It takes practice. One small gesture or risk at a time. Movement is the single thing that creates shift. Try trying a new tool for self care, or create a new habit. In time you will be able to measure your actual progress and you will be closer to feeling and having what you really want. It will be uncomfortable at first, but in time your heart and your feelings will show you otherwise. And as you step into your new personal spaces, you will also be shedding pieces of those fears around abandonment, not being enough, and being alone; and you’ll be letting go of your anger, a little bit at a time.
Lisa Karasek is an expert Quantum Healer, TREĀ® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her clientās states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic MetamorphosisĀ® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TREĀ® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.
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Have you ever heard about a couple that married after only knowing each other a week or two? What’s your opinion on arranged marriages? I always thought they were crazy. How could someone know that fast? What’s the divorce rate on those demographics?
I didn’t feel free – that’s why I thought those relationship types were bonkers. I wasn’t in control, and in my own ways about my life I was figuring out how to be. I’ve lived a lot of situations and circumstances where that particular battle was tested over and over again. I remember my one consistent thought for myself was the longing to know what free felt like. Free to BE Me.
Some of you know my story of abuse and having a stalker. The phrase “I was hunted in the streets” was the one I used the most when telling my story, and I wrote that phrase in my chapter in the book Find Your Voice Save Your Life. Being hunted certainly doesn’t provide all the warm and fuzzies of mental freedom, and the emotional anguish with what you live in certainly doesn’t feel all that amazing either. No wonder I had opinions and judgements around relationships. Notice I’m saying had.
I knew if I were to find a partner I would need to be able to trust him. He wouldn’t be the type to want to try to take me away from who I am, or seperate me from my people. And he would need to be able to support me no matter what. I absolutely did not think finding that person was possible. I had such a low expectation of men that I resolved to be alone for the rest of my life. And I had such a lowered sense of self worth that I had decided that free was something I could possibly never know. I dropped all expectations for happiness from men, and dissolved all of my dreams for finding one.
After feeling more stable in my decision, and making true effort of committed joy for my life because I respect myself and love myself unconditionally, not only did I find my worth, I met my man. Through Divine channels that really don’t make any logical sense at all except to those who understand the ways of the universe and what the true meaning Trust holds – Ken and I somehow found each other.
After knowing each other roughly two weeks we lept into a journey that both took us across the country, and into each others arms forever. We traveled the initial physical distance in a small hybrid car, with just a few bags of clothes and toiletries – compacted in every sense of the word. We learned about each other in the most outstanding way!
When we left we had every intention of returning home to the east coast, but we came into Utah and we felt ready to stay still for a bit; falling in love on so many levels and in so many ways. We secured an apartment and started moving in our new direction. There was a lot of work to jump into immediately – finding work, building a new for us home, buying some basics, having things shipped from home. Again, we learned a lot about each other in a very short period of time. We each learned a lot about our true needs and wants on a whole new level. We did a great job.
As these hustles and bustles settled down some and we were gaining traction in our new realities and dynamics we both started to notice things – about each other, and our ways, and I guess you can say things stirred up. We started fighting. Some really heavy and complex shit came up. For both of us our emotions were in overload, and we began questioning what to do. It was only a few months of living together.
Ken and I have consciously committed to each other, and we will get through. We both want a partner who raises us up, who can be available and provide the support needed to grow and develop. And we already know that when we’re good, we’re good. We’ve got this. So why the fights?
Individually we reached out for help, allowing us to speak for ourselves and receive what we needed from our peers and mentors. We also enlisted the help of professionals who provided energy healing and counseling. We both had a lot of emotionally charged energies that were stored in us and needed to be released. We both had emotional and relationship cords that were ready to be cleared. Upgrades to our mindsets needed to occur, so the garbage had to be taken out. Some of the things we learned is that both of us had environments and relationship teachers growing up that haven’t served us. Our role models didn’t have their own freedoms in a sense, and were deeply wounded emotionally. They modeled to us what toxicity looks and feels like. Now, with Ken and I each facing our dream relationship, we had to learn what energies belonged to us, and which didn’t. We began a new quest, or process, really. This new practice will bring about the awareness we need in real time to guide us to our true goals, and not have us guessing if we’re going to get what we want or not. We want to ensure neither of us will feel rejected or need to get defensive.
What we’re doing is deciphering which of the energies are adopted and/or limiting beliefs that we have to process out. Then we only have to support and nurture the energies that are our true desires. We are consciously and positively questioning who’s mirroring who, and what, to answer the why. And we’re just getting started!
For both Ken and I our self love and respect, and our love for each other remains a priority. Our fights were both of us saying no to what we didn’t want. And that meant fighting each other on some pretty hefty beliefs and energies. We’re creating new dynamics and a process that’s just for us. We’re actually creating our deepest desires together, for each other, and in a way thats growing each of us in the most special way. We are paving our path for true happiness, with Love.
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