Recently a friend of mine posted on his facebook page a list of his accomplishments, to impress that doing so is not an act of selfishness. I read his list and was so inspired that I went on to my personal page and created my own list. It was easy, I rolled it out in a few minutes. Then – I must have read that list I don’t even know how many times. Even I swelled up. I am very proud of myself. Why did I read it over and over? Because I felt excitement with my list. No feelings of being braggy or dramatic, no discomfort, nothing awkward feeling, no guilt, no need to hide anything. In fact I smiled – hard. And the thing about my list is these are my accomplishments – on the side. I did a lot of these things while in school, while working full time, and with many personal projects going.
Some moments (days, weeks, episodes) in life can be dreary. And too often it’s easy to focus on the icky stuff, even thinking we have to be better, or just get through it.
What if you wrote out your list today, and shared it with your most personal circle of friends?
When is the last time you invited someone to honor you – just because?
How do you think you’ll be received? What’s keeping you from writing it? Sharing it? How do you feel when you read your list? If you’re having trouble writing your list, it’s time to explore the reasons why you are struggling. I invite you to have a conversation with me about making your list.
Here’s my accomplishments list:
– I was a professional Polynesian dancer for 13 years
– I was a dj, have built stages and did lighting and sound for touring bands – in small venues, and also for concerts at stadiums
– I taught intrapersonal skills at UofMD for 7 years
– I taught adults a trade and was nationally recognized as an expert in my field for 5 years
– I delivered my nephew
– I broke my physical body in half (literally and unintentionally) and taught myself how to walk again
– I owned and operated a spa/wellness center
– my Spa had a 5 star rating and was recognized and published in a national magazine. Also won best of Baltimore awards 2 years in a row
– I overcame abuse, PTSD and victimhood and now I teach others how to do it for themselves
– I completely changed my life, started over from nothing after a traumatic life experience
– I have mentored survivors from abuse, trafficking
– I found my purpose in life
– I have been given a second chance at life and I’m making the most of it
– animals are my children
– I have repaired strained familial relationships
– I work in the healing arts and I help people change their lives
– I am an Ordained Priest
– I communicate with the other side
– I have slept in about 40 of the domestic United States
– I once exclusively spent a New Years eve with the New York ballet company
( Please feel free to share yours )
Sunday April 14th Continue reading
This past week I have been working on connecting with my Root Chakra. With that there is a level of reflection necessary to understand from where it is that I come from. As I join my family this morning in front of the tv to watch the parade I take it all in a little differently. I am thinking about them next to me on the couch and we as a unit, but also them – when they were young and in front of the tv with their siblings and parents this holiday, and what their mornings may have felt like. What was cast aside to make the day special? What was done differently to make the day special? For whom was this truly a special day, and why?
Some of the Root queries I reflected on this week invited me to investigate the beliefs I have aquired, and to recognize and appreciate every person in my family in the same way. My Root is calling me to Action, challenging me to nurture my self. To take inventory of my basic needs and balancing that with what I have. It’s calling me to be present and in awareness in every moment.
I also happened to be reading a book right now called The HIdden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben (I highly recommend it!). On page 82 Peter propositions Do trees have brains? It is widely accepted that the root network of trees is in charge of all chemical activity, including chemical messages and neurological activities. Trees can learn, they plan ahead, they strategize against toxicity, and they require fair living environments. Trees live as family units. Trees also don’t thrive when they are isoloated.
My Root Chakra governs my basic survival needs, and because it carries the quality of my ancestors, my culture and my connection to mother earth, it requires a present day foundation of stability. It is my job to hold this awareness, to reunite my energy so that I may draw upon the earths wisdom. I am to RECONNECT, RECLAIM, and INTEGRATE. So I explore creatively a few generations back – the ones before tv and the broadcast parades, before big cities and telecommunication, before cars and highways. I acknowledge my present day mood and my beliefs and I honor the struggles of those who came before me to better understand ME. For this I am grateful.
The Awakenings Project
returns to Maryland!
For 2 days Marissa Southards returns to Columbia MD. Appointments are limited – reserve your space today.
October 20th and 21st at Nourishing Journey
The goal of the project is the empowerment of women, girls, and woman identifying individuals through body positivity and self-actualization. Participants are asked to think of a word that best describes them and place on the body. A photo is then taken of the participant.
So many people believe they need fixing.
They don’t. There’s nothing wrong at all with who they are. They just need a bit of strength and confidence. How do you do that? Get Curious of course!