Your Relationships and Self Dynamics – What is being mirrored back to you? and Why?

January’s installation for Experience Tuesdays 2021

Every once in a while you meet someone, and you feel something special. Because they remind you of yourself – where you were once, and it helps you realize that you have in fact grown. You realize you have advice for this person, and you want to take them under your wing. You feel a strong connection, and your compassion is showing you where you can serve.

At times we connect with others because we’re in a similar situation, and you feel you could support each other through the process. And sometimes you’re drawn to someone because you feel a connection that you can’t explain. You notice you always feel better when you’re around them and talking to them. Chances are they’re on the other end of my first example – and they are placing you under their wing.

What is it exactly that’s happening? You are being shown your multi-dimensional, multi-faceted self. Their age, gender, social status, career, intelligence, or any other physical trait doesn’t need to apply. It’s the spiritual connection, your personal experience, that’s presenting itself. It’s good to observe where you’re at in all 3 of these scenarios. There comes a point when you might even notice you have each of these mirrors aimed at you.

(image credit Yeshi Kangrang / Unsplash)

Let’s take the classic parent / child example. At some point, we all realize that the child becomes the parent – to the parent, and the parent becomes the learner or the one in need. I read a long time ago about parents to want their children to have more than what they had. These types of parents are great providers.

There are parents who don’t yet have their shit together, and struggle to provide for and allow for better opportunities for their children. These children become self taught and go on to achieving more, or they stay on par with their parents and fail to break the cycle. Usually if there are siblings, they’re opposite (or differnt enough) of each other in terms of values and truths that the difference is palpable, and there’s conversation around it.

I see what I want, and what I’m capable of giving to my dogs. Because family life is different than my social and professional relationships. With my dogs I probably go overboard on what I provide, that’s because I always felt I didn’t have value in my family, I was the lowest ranked. I both felt it and it was shown to me via gesture and language by my family. When it comes to pets, my family can be a little slow to give the attention and nurturing they need and I can feel it. Instead my family overfeeds them with their idea of love in the form of food and treats, rewarding them with their own misplaced priorities.

There are mentors, coaches, and accountabilty partners that we find for ourselves. These are more intentionally matched and prove to meet our needs when we identify the direction we know we want to be headed. We are guided because they are able to succesfully reflect to us what we are asking for; and what it will take to get us there.

It’s fairly common to acknowledge that romantic relationships by far mirror to us who we want to be. There are roles, labels, and responsibilties that come with the investment. And as the dynamic plays out, the mirrors and facets become highlighted. Most of our growth comes from what intimacy and expectation reveals. Sometimes with our partners our beliefs (real or adopted) about who we think we’re supposed to be rule the relationship; and not always necessarily who we want or need to be, but who we have become, or need to become to be that person. We may even lose ourselves in the misalignment.

Social friendships can also be considered intimate – we tend to explore our desires and certain parts of ourselves through exploration, questioning, and ranking (comparison) with people we trust. We allow our vulnerability to surface because we’re searching for an outlet for support from an unbiased position.

Professional relationships can be tricky. There are many ways professional relationships teach us things. There’s a hierarchy and a sort of disconnect at play. And it’s up to us to determine if we need it to align with our wants, needs, and the hierarchies; or we can decide to table it until the next day or the next encounter. When it comes to professional relationships we have the choice to invest in observation and support, or not.

All of our relationships show us our courage and strength up close. Where do you speak up?, and where do you listen? Where do you put your effort and attention? Why?

This month I’m asking you to go a little deeper, and start figuring out “What’s being mirrored to me?” Healing around it happens when you address it. Otherwise, you’re just gonna keep on going at the pace and space you are, running the risk of not meeting your authentic self, or knowing true happiness.

As a high schooler I was told one of the best ways to learn something I was struggling with was to try to teach it to someone else. You have to be able to connect with the information. And it helps when that information hits home on a personal level. You’ll find that you come up with unique examples and stories to get the other person to get it. One of the biggest eye-openers for me when certifying to be a coach was the advice to write about every session I have with a client – to recall and reference what the session entailed, what the client accomplished or didn’t, to remark on shifts and progress, if anything was assigned to do before our next session, and any other observations and recommendations. The added advice was to then honestly write about what the client and the session taught me. What did I learn?, and/or what do I need to learn? in order to be able to continue to be the right professional and support person this client needs. To know when it’s time to make a referal.

As I started this practice I quickly learned that I was still very much a student. And It is this advice that I apply to myself, in all of lifes opportunities and teaching moments, with al lof my relationships. Especially my self relationship.

I hope you find this months videos and conversations helpful. Please join my Mind Body Spirit class on January 12th – which will bring this to you with a new perspective and reason to keep exploring and expanding. Then, I wrap up the month with a group healing, that will provide what you need for your growth. For more information, tune in, and ask. I am here for you.

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner, and 3 time author. Lisa is able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship. To learn more about Experience Tuesdays 2021, find it on Lisa’s social channels.

I’ve been busy recording!

I was invited by two amazing women, leaders and trailblazers in their purpose, to sit with them and contribute to their message. 

This month I am being featured on Naranjan Nota’s Master of your Crafts podcast – airing Wednesday June 3rd,
&
Dr. Holly Donohue’s summit: Health Mastery for Leaders: Expand Your Success with Enhanced Wealth – June 15th-26th.

CHECK THEM OUT!

The Master Of Your Crafts Podcast
is a series of heartfelt and intriguing conversations with people who are driven and passionate about a skill, a talent they have mastered over the years. Season one emphasizes women who are owning and honing their power as the divine feminine energy becomes more prevalent. The journey realizing what skill to master is a life story in itself, that uncovers many twists and turns. Join me every Wednesday to learn from others so you can develop and master your skills for a higher purpose. 

The podcast is available on ApplePodcastSpotify and Stitcher along with additional guest information on MasterOfYourCrafts.com.

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My colleague, host Dr. Holly Donahue, a naturopathic doctor and founder of two natural healing companies, Simple Health, Inc., and Cura’ Naturale Therapeutic Healing, will interview an intriguing array of well-respected experts about their proven wellness skills and techniques that could enhance your personal and professional well-being.

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What matters?

Whether you follow astrology or not. Whether you follow the news or not. Whether you believe or not. Whether you wear a mask or not. Whether you smoke or drink or not. Whether you are married or single. What matters?

Why is it important to ask?

Because you matter. Everything you say and do, how you are in life, matters.

Because you are here for a reason. Because you have been blessed with the gift of choice. And that matters.

I fear the majority of the population doesn’t quite understand the power behind this gift, and that they’re letting it slip past them unnoticed. That fear hurts me. It invokes judgment and a slew of emotions and physiologies that do not serve me, that don’t align in me.

So what I have to do is become the greatest manager. And remind myself that I do so because I am meant to live as an example to others. I am not meant to force it unto them, but that they will see it in me if they want to understand it for themselves. Then and only then will I assist.

What’s happening is I am living the human experience. I become emotional. I have good days and I have not so good days. I get bloated, and urinary incontinence. I have difficulty sleeping. I ruminate on things. I have outbursts in response to things I don’t like. I have responsibilities and chores and projects to occupy me. I have work to do.

And I seek healing.

I use healing as my compass to direct me to the next intersection on my path. I’m walking in a great big labyrinth. Without becoming detective, I walk nonetheless. And I pause at each sign. And I still myself with it. And I check in with my guides to make sure I’m still performing in the way I am intended to be.

I am not sure what I desire, that’s the puzzle. Every time I think I figure it out, more illuminates and I advance toward it. It’s exciting, and at times I am unsure. This is why I must trust. And in order to trust, I must believe. Respect needs to be an equal exchange. Communication is vital – between me and the divine. There needs to be good reception and the channel needs to be clear and open.

When I have this, what matters becomes clear. And what matters belongs only to me, and you, and each of us, individually. There are no two that are the same or shared. We each have our own.  

Are you awake to this?

Does that matter?

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.

Accomplishments

Recently a friend of mine posted on his facebook page a list of his accomplishments, to impress that doing so is not an act of selfishness. I read his list and was so inspired that I went on to my personal page and created my own list. It was easy, I rolled it out in a few minutes. Then – I must have read that list I don’t even know how many times. Even I swelled up. I am very proud of myself. Why did I read it over and over? Because I felt excitement with my list. No feelings of being braggy or dramatic, no discomfort, nothing awkward feeling, no guilt, no need to hide anything. In fact I smiled – hard. And the thing about my list is these are my accomplishments – on the side. I did a lot of these things while in school, while working full time, and with many personal projects going.

Some moments (days, weeks, episodes) in life can be dreary. And too often it’s easy to focus on the icky stuff, even thinking we have to be better, or just get through it.

What if you wrote out your list today, and shared it with your most personal circle of friends?

When is the last time you invited someone to honor you – just because?

How do you think you’ll be received? What’s keeping you from writing it? Sharing it? How do you feel when you read your list? If you’re having trouble writing your list, it’s time to explore the reasons why you are struggling. I invite you to have a conversation with me about making your list.

UNADJUSTEDNONRAW_thumb_2aa6.jpg Here’s my accomplishments list:

– I was a professional Polynesian dancer for 13 years
– I was a dj, have built stages and did lighting and sound for touring bands – in small venues, and also for concerts at stadiums
– I taught intrapersonal skills at UofMD for 7 years
– I taught adults a trade and was nationally recognized as an expert in my field for 5 years
– I delivered my nephew
– I broke my physical body in half (literally and unintentionally) and taught myself how to walk again
– I owned and operated a spa/wellness center
– my Spa had a 5 star rating and was recognized and published in a national magazine. Also won best of Baltimore awards 2 years in a row
– I overcame abuse, PTSD and victimhood and now I teach others how to do it for themselves
– I completely changed my life, started over from nothing after a traumatic life experience
– I have mentored survivors from abuse, trafficking
– I found my purpose in life
– I have been given a second chance at life and I’m making the most of it
– animals are my children
– I have repaired strained familial relationships
– I work in the healing arts and I help people change their lives
– I am an Ordained Priest
– I communicate with the other side
– I have slept in about 40 of the domestic United States
– I once exclusively spent a New Years eve with the New York ballet company

( Please feel free to share yours )  

Eating Psychology

march

$20 per person, per class -OR- $15 early registration

Join the class at the Latrobe Park Recreational Center

1627 East Fort Avenue, Baltimore 21230

We will discuss everything you think you know about dieting and weight.

This Workshop is designed to lift the stigma of dieting and how it affects you.