Your Relationships and Self Dynamics – What is being mirrored back to you? and Why?

January’s installation for Experience Tuesdays 2021

Every once in a while you meet someone, and you feel something special. Because they remind you of yourself – where you were once, and it helps you realize that you have in fact grown. You realize you have advice for this person, and you want to take them under your wing. You feel a strong connection, and your compassion is showing you where you can serve.

At times we connect with others because we’re in a similar situation, and you feel you could support each other through the process. And sometimes you’re drawn to someone because you feel a connection that you can’t explain. You notice you always feel better when you’re around them and talking to them. Chances are they’re on the other end of my first example – and they are placing you under their wing.

What is it exactly that’s happening? You are being shown your multi-dimensional, multi-faceted self. Their age, gender, social status, career, intelligence, or any other physical trait doesn’t need to apply. It’s the spiritual connection, your personal experience, that’s presenting itself. It’s good to observe where you’re at in all 3 of these scenarios. There comes a point when you might even notice you have each of these mirrors aimed at you.

(image credit Yeshi Kangrang / Unsplash)

Let’s take the classic parent / child example. At some point, we all realize that the child becomes the parent – to the parent, and the parent becomes the learner or the one in need. I read a long time ago about parents to want their children to have more than what they had. These types of parents are great providers.

There are parents who don’t yet have their shit together, and struggle to provide for and allow for better opportunities for their children. These children become self taught and go on to achieving more, or they stay on par with their parents and fail to break the cycle. Usually if there are siblings, they’re opposite (or differnt enough) of each other in terms of values and truths that the difference is palpable, and there’s conversation around it.

I see what I want, and what I’m capable of giving to my dogs. Because family life is different than my social and professional relationships. With my dogs I probably go overboard on what I provide, that’s because I always felt I didn’t have value in my family, I was the lowest ranked. I both felt it and it was shown to me via gesture and language by my family. When it comes to pets, my family can be a little slow to give the attention and nurturing they need and I can feel it. Instead my family overfeeds them with their idea of love in the form of food and treats, rewarding them with their own misplaced priorities.

There are mentors, coaches, and accountabilty partners that we find for ourselves. These are more intentionally matched and prove to meet our needs when we identify the direction we know we want to be headed. We are guided because they are able to succesfully reflect to us what we are asking for; and what it will take to get us there.

It’s fairly common to acknowledge that romantic relationships by far mirror to us who we want to be. There are roles, labels, and responsibilties that come with the investment. And as the dynamic plays out, the mirrors and facets become highlighted. Most of our growth comes from what intimacy and expectation reveals. Sometimes with our partners our beliefs (real or adopted) about who we think we’re supposed to be rule the relationship; and not always necessarily who we want or need to be, but who we have become, or need to become to be that person. We may even lose ourselves in the misalignment.

Social friendships can also be considered intimate – we tend to explore our desires and certain parts of ourselves through exploration, questioning, and ranking (comparison) with people we trust. We allow our vulnerability to surface because we’re searching for an outlet for support from an unbiased position.

Professional relationships can be tricky. There are many ways professional relationships teach us things. There’s a hierarchy and a sort of disconnect at play. And it’s up to us to determine if we need it to align with our wants, needs, and the hierarchies; or we can decide to table it until the next day or the next encounter. When it comes to professional relationships we have the choice to invest in observation and support, or not.

All of our relationships show us our courage and strength up close. Where do you speak up?, and where do you listen? Where do you put your effort and attention? Why?

This month I’m asking you to go a little deeper, and start figuring out “What’s being mirrored to me?” Healing around it happens when you address it. Otherwise, you’re just gonna keep on going at the pace and space you are, running the risk of not meeting your authentic self, or knowing true happiness.

As a high schooler I was told one of the best ways to learn something I was struggling with was to try to teach it to someone else. You have to be able to connect with the information. And it helps when that information hits home on a personal level. You’ll find that you come up with unique examples and stories to get the other person to get it. One of the biggest eye-openers for me when certifying to be a coach was the advice to write about every session I have with a client – to recall and reference what the session entailed, what the client accomplished or didn’t, to remark on shifts and progress, if anything was assigned to do before our next session, and any other observations and recommendations. The added advice was to then honestly write about what the client and the session taught me. What did I learn?, and/or what do I need to learn? in order to be able to continue to be the right professional and support person this client needs. To know when it’s time to make a referal.

As I started this practice I quickly learned that I was still very much a student. And It is this advice that I apply to myself, in all of lifes opportunities and teaching moments, with al lof my relationships. Especially my self relationship.

I hope you find this months videos and conversations helpful. Please join my Mind Body Spirit class on January 12th – which will bring this to you with a new perspective and reason to keep exploring and expanding. Then, I wrap up the month with a group healing, that will provide what you need for your growth. For more information, tune in, and ask. I am here for you.

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner, and 3 time author. Lisa is able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship. To learn more about Experience Tuesdays 2021, find it on Lisa’s social channels.

The Crave More Life Roadshow – October 21st

The Crave More Life Roadshow
airs October 21st, 2020 https://cravemorelife.com/crave-life-roadshow/

The book project, The Ultimate Guide to Healing, has brought so many opportunities. And I am so excited to share with you the interview that’s next to air.

As you know I contributed to volume 1, and again in volume 3. You notice in the books that each author follows the format of telling their personal story, then shares a tool for healing to do at home.

Contributing author and fellow badass Dianna Leeder (volume 2 author), coach and podcaster, has invited some of us fellow authors to go more deeply into our stories.

Diannas coaching style and podcast The Crave More Life Roadshow is exquisitely fun and open. In big, bold font her message is clear – kick your own ass, and get on with your happy!

I sat with Dianna and shared more of my story, an extension to what you get from my chapter in volume 3. I really enjoyed doing this interview. What you probably don’t know is, my chapter in volume 3 is the first time I shared in full, all in one place, and spoke details about the life changing event I went through. Because the focus of the books is on the tools we provide, this interview opened me up even more – it was really the first time I told a stranger with my voice what I went through. This interview was great because I allowed myself to unleash, and be me. I wasn’t trying to be professional, I didn’t try to skirt around anything too emotional, I was just me.

“When we heal our selves, we heal everyone around us.” Or something like that, I’m not very good with quotes off the top of my head. But it’s true … knowing that more than just my closest friends and family are hearing this, and it’s more than just a blurb I write about cryptically – I know that my story will touch others, too.

Listen tomorrow, October 21st on iTunes, Spotify, or via her website: https://cravemorelife.com/crave-life-roadshow/



Lisa Karasek, two time author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. 

Consciousness Mapping

Lisa Karasek here, Quantum Healer and author of Consciousness, in The Ultimate Guide to Self Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices and Tools for Peak Holistic Health and Wellness – Volume 1 (it’s a book series).

I had been looking to create new classes to offer, and this book project gave me great inspiration, and helped me hone in on what I really want to focus on.

My journey as a healer is just beginning, it took me a few years to get comfortable with releasing jobs that didn’t suit my soul, and choosing to fully step into a world that is not familiar. Deciding to exclusively be an Intuitive Practitioner, and embracing the label Healer took time, but it was SO worth it!

Now I am more than ready to share with you how you can have what you want, live an ideal life, and feel aligned with your purpose.

The process of Consciousness Mapping helps you to understand on a deep level why you make the decisions you do, uncover the roots of your “triggers,” and helps you shift to a powerful, aligned state of being. Develop and nurture your personal experience by connecting to your authentic truth and purpose.

Healing, and overcoming limiting beliefs are mindfully conscious practices that will align you positively with your soul’s deepest desires.

In this online class you will:

  • Learn how life events create a map for how you act, be, and do in life
  • Identify how the unspoken dynamics of your relationships affect your ability to live authentically
  • Develop personal strategies for mindfulness and how to apply them

Mapping your conscious awareness provides focus for and more deeply tunes you in to all that is possible.

My class through The Reiki Awakening Academy is being offered at multiple dates and times, but Thursday Aug 6th at 7pm EST is the next one. Offered again on August 15th, and there are more dates scheduled until the end of the year.

Please register at: https://reikiawakeningacademy.com/class/consciousness-mapping-aug6/


Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.

What matters?

Whether you follow astrology or not. Whether you follow the news or not. Whether you believe or not. Whether you wear a mask or not. Whether you smoke or drink or not. Whether you are married or single. What matters?

Why is it important to ask?

Because you matter. Everything you say and do, how you are in life, matters.

Because you are here for a reason. Because you have been blessed with the gift of choice. And that matters.

I fear the majority of the population doesn’t quite understand the power behind this gift, and that they’re letting it slip past them unnoticed. That fear hurts me. It invokes judgment and a slew of emotions and physiologies that do not serve me, that don’t align in me.

So what I have to do is become the greatest manager. And remind myself that I do so because I am meant to live as an example to others. I am not meant to force it unto them, but that they will see it in me if they want to understand it for themselves. Then and only then will I assist.

What’s happening is I am living the human experience. I become emotional. I have good days and I have not so good days. I get bloated, and urinary incontinence. I have difficulty sleeping. I ruminate on things. I have outbursts in response to things I don’t like. I have responsibilities and chores and projects to occupy me. I have work to do.

And I seek healing.

I use healing as my compass to direct me to the next intersection on my path. I’m walking in a great big labyrinth. Without becoming detective, I walk nonetheless. And I pause at each sign. And I still myself with it. And I check in with my guides to make sure I’m still performing in the way I am intended to be.

I am not sure what I desire, that’s the puzzle. Every time I think I figure it out, more illuminates and I advance toward it. It’s exciting, and at times I am unsure. This is why I must trust. And in order to trust, I must believe. Respect needs to be an equal exchange. Communication is vital – between me and the divine. There needs to be good reception and the channel needs to be clear and open.

When I have this, what matters becomes clear. And what matters belongs only to me, and you, and each of us, individually. There are no two that are the same or shared. We each have our own.  

Are you awake to this?

Does that matter?

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness.

I wanted a life, and I knew I deserved one

All I ask is that as you read this, you do so with the compassion and awareness that I had to grasp as I experienced these events. What I am about to say has never left my brain, has never been admitted, or spoken out loud, until now.

What I’m about to share are the types of things we keep to ourselves. They are our highly personal feelings of shame, and the stories we want to bury forever.

When I was in the beginnings of my healing journey my body physiology was so fucked up that I lost control of my bowels and my bladder. I was so devastatingly stressed out that for a long period of time – like a year or two or three – I needed adult diapers. I had nothing medically wrong with me, it was literally the level of stress I was holding.

At first I wasn’t prepared, and I had to be on alert – scanning the streets and sidewalk for other people, so they wouldn’t see when I peed or messed my pants. I layered, so I could tie a shirt or sweater around my waist. My poor dog, so many walks were cut short.   

I always – I’m talking every hour, every day, for a few years – felt like I had to go. But I couldn’t recognize when it would come. I would try to go before I left the house, even if it was just to walk my dog around the block. But it didn’t matter, we’d be just far enough that I couldn’t jaunt back, just far enough that he was ready and going. Just far enough that even if I turned around right there and then, home was too far away for me to make it. I was just as vulnerable and exposed out on the street as he was. My shame was heavy.

My whole body was upset all the time – like for the full 24 hours, day after day after day. My stomach was always knotted, my lungs always pumping, and my heart always pounding. I was constantly trying to calm myself down – with breathing, counting, stilling myself, and endless compassionate self-nurturing conversations.

I hated leaving the house.

Even though I was at that point safe, I was still suffering from the trauma, and I had a very difficult time letting go. I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD.

It all came about as a result of what I had lived through. I was forced back home, to live with my parents; I was in my early forties. The pressure I put on myself around that, and the inabilities to take care of myself in every way, only added to my stress, and I created a whole new paradigm of toxic cause and affect.

I just couldn’t hold myself together.

All of the things required to make a healthy human were missing for me – sleep, routine, menstrual cycles, people, something to look forward to – all missing.

I was a mess. And added to everything, I lived with pain from breaking my back.

My cognitivity was so suppressed, productivity was absent, and any kind of motivation felt like I was hanging from an insanely high cliff. My fingertips were scraping the edge, and I was slipping, slowly.

That edge made for a dangerously distorted sense of reality, and I was unable to be a nice person. I slapped my mother across her face. I screamed into the face of my 7 year old niece to fuck off. I was perpetually on a rant with everyone, and I honestly did not think it was possible to overcome any of this.

Every time I had to throw away my underwear, and take another shower, I cried. Every conversation that I pleaded, screamed, and demanded – they each made me cry. No matter how hard I apologized, I couldn’t take it back. I couldn’t erase what I had done. Together we have these memories to live with, I cannot lie. I cried because I recognized I was a horrible person. I isolated myself because I was a monster.

I hated this version of me. 

The hate I felt for myself was strong enough to want change. I didn’t want to always have to cry. I wanted to know if I was stuck to live with such a fucked up and broken body. I truly wanted healthy relationships in my life. I wanted a life. And I knew I deserved one – I knew I had done nothing wrong.

It took me years to get what I wanted, but I did it. As the swell of desire rose in me, the more shift I felt. There were so many ways I tested and tried to find me, and I eventually stopped the need to cry. I had to learn how to be me, the me I wanted to be. I am forever grateful for the strength I had, I honestly couldn’t tell you how I found it some days.  

When I tell people I used to live from a place of anger it’s hard for them to believe.

I know now that some of that anger was learned, and transferred behavior – I was reflecting back how I was treated, and showing myself what I didn’t like. I didn’t want to be doing to others what was done to me. The rest of the anger was what I was holding inside, I was no longer willing to suffer in silence – it was my cry for help.

I was able to get through so many events, so many days, that were absolutely devastating and disgraceful, because I had compassion. Without compassion in each of my situations, I wouldn’t have made it. Thankfully I had enough to want more.

That me that I used to be, she’s gone. I did the work to move past all of that anger with the help of many.

What more do you want?

We’re each on our journeys, and we can all do it.

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. Find more information about her and her programs.