I wanted a life, and I knew I deserved one

All I ask is that as you read this, you do so with the compassion and awareness that I had to grasp as I experienced these events. What I am about to say has never left my brain, has never been admitted, or spoken out loud, until now.

What I’m about to share are the types of things we keep to ourselves. They are our highly personal feelings of shame, and the stories we want to bury forever.

When I was in the beginnings of my healing journey my body physiology was so fucked up that I lost control of my bowels and my bladder. I was so devastatingly stressed out that for a long period of time – like a year or two or three – I needed adult diapers. I had nothing medically wrong with me, it was literally the level of stress I was holding.

At first I wasn’t prepared, and I had to be on alert – scanning the streets and sidewalk for other people, so they wouldn’t see when I peed or messed my pants. I layered, so I could tie a shirt or sweater around my waist. My poor dog, so many walks were cut short.   

I always – I’m talking every hour, every day, for a few years – felt like I had to go. But I couldn’t recognize when it would come. I would try to go before I left the house, even if it was just to walk my dog around the block. But it didn’t matter, we’d be just far enough that I couldn’t jaunt back, just far enough that he was ready and going. Just far enough that even if I turned around right there and then, home was too far away for me to make it. I was just as vulnerable and exposed out on the street as he was. My shame was heavy.

My whole body was upset all the time – like for the full 24 hours, day after day after day. My stomach was always knotted, my lungs always pumping, and my heart always pounding. I was constantly trying to calm myself down – with breathing, counting, stilling myself, and endless compassionate self-nurturing conversations.

I hated leaving the house.

Even though I was at that point safe, I was still suffering from the trauma, and I had a very difficult time letting go. I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD.

It all came about as a result of what I had lived through. I was forced back home, to live with my parents; I was in my early forties. The pressure I put on myself around that, and the inabilities to take care of myself in every way, only added to my stress, and I created a whole new paradigm of toxic cause and affect.

I just couldn’t hold myself together.

All of the things required to make a healthy human were missing for me – sleep, routine, menstrual cycles, people, something to look forward to – all missing.

I was a mess. And added to everything, I lived with pain from breaking my back.

My cognitivity was so suppressed, productivity was absent, and any kind of motivation felt like I was hanging from an insanely high cliff. My fingertips were scraping the edge, and I was slipping, slowly.

That edge made for a dangerously distorted sense of reality, and I was unable to be a nice person. I slapped my mother across her face. I screamed into the face of my 7 year old niece to fuck off. I was perpetually on a rant with everyone, and I honestly did not think it was possible to overcome any of this.

Every time I had to throw away my underwear, and take another shower, I cried. Every conversation that I pleaded, screamed, and demanded – they each made me cry. No matter how hard I apologized, I couldn’t take it back. I couldn’t erase what I had done. Together we have these memories to live with, I cannot lie. I cried because I recognized I was a horrible person. I isolated myself because I was a monster.

I hated this version of me. 

The hate I felt for myself was strong enough to want change. I didn’t want to always have to cry. I wanted to know if I was stuck to live with such a fucked up and broken body. I truly wanted healthy relationships in my life. I wanted a life. And I knew I deserved one – I knew I had done nothing wrong.

It took me years to get what I wanted, but I did it. As the swell of desire rose in me, the more shift I felt. There were so many ways I tested and tried to find me, and I eventually stopped the need to cry. I had to learn how to be me, the me I wanted to be. I am forever grateful for the strength I had, I honestly couldn’t tell you how I found it some days.  

When I tell people I used to live from a place of anger it’s hard for them to believe.

I know now that some of that anger was learned, and transferred behavior – I was reflecting back how I was treated, and showing myself what I didn’t like. I didn’t want to be doing to others what was done to me. The rest of the anger was what I was holding inside, I was no longer willing to suffer in silence – it was my cry for help.

I was able to get through so many events, so many days, that were absolutely devastating and disgraceful, because I had compassion. Without compassion in each of my situations, I wouldn’t have made it. Thankfully I had enough to want more.

That me that I used to be, she’s gone. I did the work to move past all of that anger with the help of many.

What more do you want?

We’re each on our journeys, and we can all do it.

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. Find more information about her and her programs.

This process of being human

There I was in the shower, completely exhausted. I’m not gonna make it I thought. I had zero energy left in me.

My arm is in a cast, and my cast is inside a waterproof cover for the shower. The cast is heavy, and my arm is just hanging there. I don’t have the energy to hold it against my belly. My good arm is also heavy. It’s tired and sore. It’s exhausted. 

“Limb fatigue is a real thing“ Laura explained to me. She’s a PT, and was explaining to me that the arm I’m using is exhausted from using it so much.

I have limited range of motion. And it’s feeling like dead weight. It’s so sore I don’t even want to try to move it.

It’s been a few days and I need this shower. Since the cast has been on I’ve only had a few. While each one of those were welcomed and a relief, this one is not. I’m talking myself out of exiting the shower. I’m forcing myself to stand under the shower. I try to relax. Try to enjoy it, it’s a treat, I say. I think about a renowned meditation and awareness practice of allowing the water to wash away my stress and let it go down the drain. I don’t need my stress to go down the drain because I’m not feeling stress. What I’m feeling is exhaustion. I feel a century old, and as though not a minute of it has been spent asleep.

But I have slept. I’ve slept a lot. My body is healing.

I don’t want to but I make myself take soap to my skin. The soap feels like it’s 20 pounds heavy. I feel as though I’m pushing 5000 tons of machinery across a field. Usually I finish my showers with two minutes of cold to balance my nervous system and to draw my energy back in. I seriously consider skipping it. I just want out. 

When I was done I just stood there. My head was hung low and I made absolutely no attempt. In a whisper I said to my mother “I can’t dry myself. You have to do it.”

She put my hair in the turban, and then she dried my body. We took the precautions of removing the cast cover and I returned to my bed.

I’m not weak. I just don’t have any strength.

And so I am reminded that I am mortal. I am reminded that our bodies get worn. Today, I am not independent. No matter what my calendar says, no matter what my responsibilities and commitments are, or what my agenda is, I must rest myself.

It takes great courage to be one with this process of being human, and not fight it. To see yourself so vulnerable, to feel yourself so vulnerable. It takes courage to be in your truth and to be in your reality. To be sober, and not numb. To accept fully what it’s like to be in your body. To surrender.

I promise you that when you go through the exercise of being in your courage, each time it gets easier and easier. Eventually the need to be courageous dwindles. Like breathing, it becomes something you can just do.  You will even get to a point where you’ll notice how you respond, and that turns into inspiration. Then, you’re living as you’re meant to.

Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 home practices & tools for peak holistic health & wellness. Author of Quantum Experiences. Lisa is an expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. Find more information about her and her programs at www.LisaKarasek.com

Fundraiser to stop human trafficking in Maryland

February 15th, 2020

11am – 4pm at Nourishing Journey
8975 Guilford Road, Columbia MD

I began volunteering for Araminta a few years ago. 
It is very important to me to help you understand how truly amazing this organization is. 
Most causes are dedicated to recovering individuals from their situations. 
Araminta goes beyond, and above that call. They provide all things a survivor may need once they have left their situation. They pair the survivors with mentors and make sure every single one of their critical needs are met – for them and their children. Every single thing from medical care, therapy, clothing, housing, and schooling and care for their children. Survivors are provided food, transportation for their appointments, support in every place imaginable – courts, etc. We help them build their lives from a stable point.

Araminta is a volunteer based organization and they are in need of so much, all of the time.

On February 15th the practitioners at Nourishing Journey are donating their time and their talents to raise money that Araminta needs to continue their mission. In addition to services there will also be an education room with speakers on different subjects throughout the event.  

Here’s what you can do:
Share this information Attend the eventPay $20 for one (20 minute) service 
OR
Pay $50 for 3 (20 minute) servicesBring others with you to the event.

All of the proceeds from the day will be given to Araminta. 

If you cannot attend, but would still like to donate, please click on the button below. 

Thank You! 

To learn more, and to donate, please visit their website at https://www.aramintafreedom.org
Fundraiser to stop human trafficking in Maryland

TRE® Experience series beginning in 2020

So many people are looking for ways to heal themselves, to overcome, and move past the things in their lives that bring them down. People are ready for change. People are ready for better. And everyone likes feeling healthy.

I invite you to think back to your first day of school, your first job interview, that big fight with a loved one, being cut off in traffic. Remember the last time you had a really big day, the kind that requires celebrating, like your wedding day.

Why? Because any event or experience (good, or not so good) that causes you to react on a psycho-emotional level has a direct and immediate affect at a neuro-physiolocal level for short or extended periods of time. Let me explain …

These intense and highly emotional events and experiences created charged energy – that is now stored in your body.

Why do we want to care about and acknowledge our charged moments?

Because the continued behavior of failing to acknowledge their effects risks creating stress related diseases, especially when suppressing the not so good ones. I tell my students all the time how simple things – even just stubbing your toe – is traumatic. But I encourage everyone to come up with their own definitions for 1)stress, 2)tension, and 3)trauma.

I am so passionate about helping people be experts for their own health and wellness plan that I created a 4 week series to deepen their healing experience. TRE® (Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises) is a series of exercises that assist the body in releasing deep muscular patterns of stress, tension and trauma (physical and emotional). Created by Dr. David Berceli TRE® safely activates your natural reflexive mechanism by way of neurophysiological rebalancing. And the most commonly reported benefits are decreased anxiety, the release of chronic tension, the discharge of emotional and physical trauma, improved sleep, mood and digestion, decreased aches and pains, improved flexibility, and the decrease in symptoms for sciatica, fibromyalgia, and other chronic conditions.

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Individuals and communities around the world feel the
benefits of this modality for healing.

In this series, you will deeply explore your personal trauma time-line; determine your level of traumatic imprint; learn about the importance for properly discharging stored energy to create new emotional pathways and speeding up your recovery time; and how this modality for healing restores your Mind Body Spirit to wholeness – and more. Each class is a combination of education, self discovery, group discussion, and a group TRE® experience.

I am currently offering this course in 3 locations:

Every Saturday in January from 11:30 am to 1:30 pm at Truth Mind & Body in Sparks MD

Every Sunday in January from 2 – 4 pm at Nourishing Journey in Columbia MD

Every Monday in February from 7 – 9 pm at Zoetics Wellness Center in Pikesville MD

Pre-registration is required because seats are limited. Click on the locations link above to register. For more information, or to bring this series to your community – please email me directly. Cost is $150 per person. Please bring your personal journals, mats, blankets, and wear comfortable clothing you can stretch in.

4 week immersion experience by Lisa Karasek, TRE® Certified Facilitator

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Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship.

Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises

May – Group Classes:

  • at Nourishing Journey Thursdays May 2nd, and May 30th at 10 am
  • at Truth Mind Body – A Wellness Center Sunday May 5th at 1 pm

 

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I am exploring the possibilities for the best day and time to provide classes:

  • I invite you to click here to tell me what day and time you are able to attend classes at Nourishing Journey.
  • I invite you to click here to tell me what day and time you are able to attend classes at Ruscombe Mansion Community Health Center.