Your Relationships and Self Dynamics – What is being mirrored back to you? and Why?

January’s installation for Experience Tuesdays 2021

Every once in a while you meet someone, and you feel something special. Because they remind you of yourself – where you were once, and it helps you realize that you have in fact grown. You realize you have advice for this person, and you want to take them under your wing. You feel a strong connection, and your compassion is showing you where you can serve.

At times we connect with others because we’re in a similar situation, and you feel you could support each other through the process. And sometimes you’re drawn to someone because you feel a connection that you can’t explain. You notice you always feel better when you’re around them and talking to them. Chances are they’re on the other end of my first example – and they are placing you under their wing.

What is it exactly that’s happening? You are being shown your multi-dimensional, multi-faceted self. Their age, gender, social status, career, intelligence, or any other physical trait doesn’t need to apply. It’s the spiritual connection, your personal experience, that’s presenting itself. It’s good to observe where you’re at in all 3 of these scenarios. There comes a point when you might even notice you have each of these mirrors aimed at you.

(image credit Yeshi Kangrang / Unsplash)

Let’s take the classic parent / child example. At some point, we all realize that the child becomes the parent – to the parent, and the parent becomes the learner or the one in need. I read a long time ago about parents to want their children to have more than what they had. These types of parents are great providers.

There are parents who don’t yet have their shit together, and struggle to provide for and allow for better opportunities for their children. These children become self taught and go on to achieving more, or they stay on par with their parents and fail to break the cycle. Usually if there are siblings, they’re opposite (or differnt enough) of each other in terms of values and truths that the difference is palpable, and there’s conversation around it.

I see what I want, and what I’m capable of giving to my dogs. Because family life is different than my social and professional relationships. With my dogs I probably go overboard on what I provide, that’s because I always felt I didn’t have value in my family, I was the lowest ranked. I both felt it and it was shown to me via gesture and language by my family. When it comes to pets, my family can be a little slow to give the attention and nurturing they need and I can feel it. Instead my family overfeeds them with their idea of love in the form of food and treats, rewarding them with their own misplaced priorities.

There are mentors, coaches, and accountabilty partners that we find for ourselves. These are more intentionally matched and prove to meet our needs when we identify the direction we know we want to be headed. We are guided because they are able to succesfully reflect to us what we are asking for; and what it will take to get us there.

It’s fairly common to acknowledge that romantic relationships by far mirror to us who we want to be. There are roles, labels, and responsibilties that come with the investment. And as the dynamic plays out, the mirrors and facets become highlighted. Most of our growth comes from what intimacy and expectation reveals. Sometimes with our partners our beliefs (real or adopted) about who we think we’re supposed to be rule the relationship; and not always necessarily who we want or need to be, but who we have become, or need to become to be that person. We may even lose ourselves in the misalignment.

Social friendships can also be considered intimate – we tend to explore our desires and certain parts of ourselves through exploration, questioning, and ranking (comparison) with people we trust. We allow our vulnerability to surface because we’re searching for an outlet for support from an unbiased position.

Professional relationships can be tricky. There are many ways professional relationships teach us things. There’s a hierarchy and a sort of disconnect at play. And it’s up to us to determine if we need it to align with our wants, needs, and the hierarchies; or we can decide to table it until the next day or the next encounter. When it comes to professional relationships we have the choice to invest in observation and support, or not.

All of our relationships show us our courage and strength up close. Where do you speak up?, and where do you listen? Where do you put your effort and attention? Why?

This month I’m asking you to go a little deeper, and start figuring out “What’s being mirrored to me?” Healing around it happens when you address it. Otherwise, you’re just gonna keep on going at the pace and space you are, running the risk of not meeting your authentic self, or knowing true happiness.

As a high schooler I was told one of the best ways to learn something I was struggling with was to try to teach it to someone else. You have to be able to connect with the information. And it helps when that information hits home on a personal level. You’ll find that you come up with unique examples and stories to get the other person to get it. One of the biggest eye-openers for me when certifying to be a coach was the advice to write about every session I have with a client – to recall and reference what the session entailed, what the client accomplished or didn’t, to remark on shifts and progress, if anything was assigned to do before our next session, and any other observations and recommendations. The added advice was to then honestly write about what the client and the session taught me. What did I learn?, and/or what do I need to learn? in order to be able to continue to be the right professional and support person this client needs. To know when it’s time to make a referal.

As I started this practice I quickly learned that I was still very much a student. And It is this advice that I apply to myself, in all of lifes opportunities and teaching moments, with al lof my relationships. Especially my self relationship.

I hope you find this months videos and conversations helpful. Please join my Mind Body Spirit class on January 12th – which will bring this to you with a new perspective and reason to keep exploring and expanding. Then, I wrap up the month with a group healing, that will provide what you need for your growth. For more information, tune in, and ask. I am here for you.

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner, and 3 time author. Lisa is able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship. To learn more about Experience Tuesdays 2021, find it on Lisa’s social channels.

The Crave More Life Roadshow – October 21st

The Crave More Life Roadshow
airs October 21st, 2020 https://cravemorelife.com/crave-life-roadshow/

The book project, The Ultimate Guide to Healing, has brought so many opportunities. And I am so excited to share with you the interview that’s next to air.

As you know I contributed to volume 1, and again in volume 3. You notice in the books that each author follows the format of telling their personal story, then shares a tool for healing to do at home.

Contributing author and fellow badass Dianna Leeder (volume 2 author), coach and podcaster, has invited some of us fellow authors to go more deeply into our stories.

Diannas coaching style and podcast The Crave More Life Roadshow is exquisitely fun and open. In big, bold font her message is clear – kick your own ass, and get on with your happy!

I sat with Dianna and shared more of my story, an extension to what you get from my chapter in volume 3. I really enjoyed doing this interview. What you probably don’t know is, my chapter in volume 3 is the first time I shared in full, all in one place, and spoke details about the life changing event I went through. Because the focus of the books is on the tools we provide, this interview opened me up even more – it was really the first time I told a stranger with my voice what I went through. This interview was great because I allowed myself to unleash, and be me. I wasn’t trying to be professional, I didn’t try to skirt around anything too emotional, I was just me.

“When we heal our selves, we heal everyone around us.” Or something like that, I’m not very good with quotes off the top of my head. But it’s true … knowing that more than just my closest friends and family are hearing this, and it’s more than just a blurb I write about cryptically – I know that my story will touch others, too.

Listen tomorrow, October 21st on iTunes, Spotify, or via her website: https://cravemorelife.com/crave-life-roadshow/



Lisa Karasek, two time author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. 

Introducing new RAA Teacher, Lisa Karasek!

Does this describe you? You’re beginning to wake up to some long hidden sides of yourself that you didn’t realize affected you, or the way you do life. Now what?
You ask questions. And you scrutinize those questions with a fine-toothed comb.
 
As you begin to explore the depths of your soul’s desires, and maybe even your purpose for this sudden awareness, you will need to build in some structure and some organization to your process.
 
What I have found is most people identify with concepts, but they don’t actually attempt the work behind turning the concept into something real and tangible for themselves.
 
I invite you to explore your personal beliefs, and determine what consciousness work will do for you. Each of us behave from beliefs, habits, mechanisms, and patterns that we have adopted from our relationships. We also carry with us what has been handed down to us from our ancestors. There is a lot in this lifetime alone that you could explore – like issues around social stigmatizing, family dynamics, environmental and cultural influences, and more.
 
There are places inside all of us that stir up struggle. If you find yourself asking big questions when you’re hurting, then this is a class for you. I invite you to join me for my new class, Consciousness Mapping, where we will address your personal traumatic imprint, provide positive exercises for you to identify what it is ready to be healed, and learn how you can turn your heart’s desires into a positive healing journey.

About the class:

The process of Consciousness Mapping helps you to understand on a deep level why you make the decisions you do, uncover the roots of your “triggers,” and helps you shift to a powerful, aligned state of being.

Develop and nurture your personal experience by connecting to your authentic truth and purpose. Healing, and overcoming limiting beliefs are mindfully conscious practices that will align you positively with your soul’s deepest desires.

In this class you will:

  • Learn how life events create a map for how you act, be, and do in life
  • Identify how the unspoken dynamics of your relationships affect your ability to live authentically
  • Develop personal strategies for mindfulness and how to apply them

Mapping your conscious awareness provides focus for and more deeply tunes you in to all that is possible.


 Offered through the Academy, via Zoom:

June 14th

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A quick story about Gratitude

I began my daily practice of gratitude years ago when I went through a rough time in life and I hit my bottom. I wasn’t suicidal per se, but I was ready to accept death if it happened.

Beginning my daily practice of finding something that made me smile (which is actually very hard to do when you’re as depressed and hopeless as I was), and a gratitude list is what showed me my courage – and that led me to my strength.

What and who I was grateful for just a few years ago were very different than what I express now. Looking back I wrote things like: my dog made a funny look on her face today when she pooped in the neighbors tree box – that made me smile. … Because of those silly things, in time I started to laugh.

I do have to be an active participant in my journey. And having someone, or a group of people, helping me is even better, sometimes even a blessing. I was on my healing journey and at a point where I wanted my body to be strong again – I needed my body to feel strong again – so that emotionally I could feel strong and find courage to keep trying for what I wanted. Around this time I met a personal trainer that I could not afford, but I managed to squeek out a few sessions with him – enough to take some notes, to feel some inspiration, and I created a plan and routine for myself. This also helped me realize that I once had the ability to do this for myself, only I had forgotten.

Forgetting how to take care of yourself is very humbling. It only takes one small gesture, and then your whole world begins to change. Sometimes people see, and so they help. Others, like GB the personal trainer probably never knew what was driving me those few times we met. But I was with myself 100% of the time. I cannot even begin to sit here and write out the many ways I have grown since then. Hell, I probably don’t even know them all myself – these are the sorts of things that trickle out over time. Making the connections is the importance of the lesson, and then doing something with what you learned.

I still need to actively seek gratitude and courage. I have to remember. I still need to be conscious of when I’m not smiling. I still need to find my patterns. These things truly keep my head on straight. It’s about priority and it’s about choice. Because I want life experience. A better one. I want happiness. I want to feel joy. I don’t want to feel hurt. I don’t want to feel wounded. So I practice – daily. And now when you look at my list, you will find entries like: I am grateful for meeting RB – she is such an inspiration, and because of her I can see things in a new way, and I feel better.

Isn’t it remarkable how you find what you need when you need it, not even yet fully realizing what it will ultimately give you?! Sometimes it may take years and many cycles of something working itself out to realize what a gift it truly is. You do have to be an active participant in your journey, all the time.

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a healthier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship.

Call me weird, but this is when I get really excited

There is just so much in my head 
ALL. THE. TIME. 

I mean always. 

I have way more creative sparks and wants than I could ever keep up with – you should see my To-Do List, it’s fucking ridiculous! 

Partial amounts of what I want reaches you. And to boot – call me ethereal. I fall into the stereotype of being flighty, flaky, not organized, not – whatever you want to call it. I will admit it – I do come across that way. But it’s really not my truth.

The real story is I’m too intelligent, too organized, too caring, too thoughtful, too jazzed, and too damn busy. 
It’s not that I’m incapable of accomplishing anything I start, shit, I hardly get to start enough of what I want to. 

The LISTS!! OMG the lists I have! 
Ideas. Ideas. Ideas!
… and then more ideas! 

Energy. Time. Capability. Budget. Collaboration. Ability. 

I need to sleep too.

I use a scheduling application for my email because Im one of those people who schedule when I want emails to be sent:
1) to stay on top of things I write them while I’m inspired and it’s fresh, and schedule them to send later, when they’re supposed go & 2) because often I’m replying to emails at an ungodly hour and I don’t want you to know it. 

But I do sleep, I promise. I just don’t sleep in a fashion to others.

Mostly I manage – I jump. From list to idea to priority to what I want personally, and I circle back, start again.  
I try. I do my best, and some days I get more done than other days. And you know what – that’s ok. Because there’s always tomorrow. 

The good news is that with all these ideas, and thank god I keep the lists – every once in a while I reorganize and restructure them – and turn them into something else, and then that becomes ready. 

Then they are the magic that reaches you. 
They are exactly what needs to be heard -now.

I love how this works. 

I’ve been this way all my life. It used to frustrate me, thinking I was deficient. But now I embrace my process, and I see the beauty of the creation that it is. 
Things need to churn in my world. 

It’s when things (ideas, moments, desires) don’t become fruitful that I address them. I ask – what’s really going on here? What is the hangup, really?

Some times I realize that it wasn’t a good idea, or, and I can let it go. 

Most of the time it turns out to be something that I had an energetic block for. 
Yes – when I say Energetic – I mean ENERGETIC – Spiritual – it involves my soul, who I really am, and what my soul really is all about. I have something to uncover at this point. 

Call me weird, but This is when I really get excited.
I Love doing the work on myself. I love knowing that I am working towards being authentically me. 
AND Because who I am is someone who loves to help you. And the more I learn, the more steps I take, the more I understand – the better I can help you in discovering what’s truly yours. 

If there’s something that you want to accomplish, and are having trouble achieving it – take a moment and remind yourself that you are worth the investment. 

To schedule a guidance session go to:
https://LKCEPC.10to8.com

Lisa Karasek is a Quantum Healer and Intuitive Practitioner able to powerfully transform your state of being by guiding you to a helathier, happier, and more purposeful life using ancient, multi-dimentional healing modalities, angelic energies, and consciousness based practices. Lisa is passionate and dedicated to helping you work with the dynamics of your Authentic Self Relationship.