What matters right nowis support.Specifically, the quality of it. I am observing what’s coming up. Everyone has something going on, like always, but because of all of the uncertainty and changes to our way for being right now, it’s different. What matters to me is how we are navigating our feelings, managing our emotions, consulting with our beliefs, and exploring our options.
I’m asking: Will you know where the pain is coming from when the shift back-to arises? Will you understand what’s behind the hurt when you want to transfer it?, transmute it?, or transform it? Do you now?
When you can no longer accept the hurt (because you won’t), when you are ready for the truth – transference, transmutation, and transformation of a different kind must happen if you are to come out of this on the other side from where you are now. Otherwise, no growth or development will happen.
When you’re ready for change, you will need to change with it, or, against it.
I understand all of this in a way that you may not understand (yet). I understand why you will need to come to terms with something that is bigger than you. Something deeper will have to take place that’s more serious, and more sustainable. You will need calm, not chaos, through this process. You will need more.
I have not been shy about it – I have already lived through a life changing event. I have been through a process, and I have been working on how to get my message about it to you. No, I never imagined that we would go through one together, but pretty early on in this pandemic I recognized that now is my time to speak up. I know how my experience will help.
I remember a point a few years ago after I started my recovery, when all I thought I wanted were my “old ways” back. I felt my life come back to me, and then that wasn’t enough. I kept going. I questioned what was so great about before anyway? Then I started watching myself grow past my expectations, and then some!
You can too. You will, too. You have to start somewhere. Understanding where all the hurt and pain and confusing emotions come from is what puts you into your recovery space.
If you aren’t thinking about the shift that’s going to happen, I suggest you start. The one thing I didn’t know then, and I can confirm for you now, is – start exploring how you want to be in front of it, what do you want this experience to mean for you?
Lisa Karasek, author in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Techniques; 25 Home Practices & Tools for Peak Holistic Health & Wellness. An expert Quantum Healer, TRE® Certified Facilitator and Certified Eating Psychology Coach, who is able to update her client’s states of being to assist in healing. Using ancient, multi-dimensional healing and Holistic Metamorphosis® (an angelic energy healing modality), consciousness-based practices, and TRE® (tension and trauma releasing exercises), Lisa powerfully guides her clients to a healthier, happier, more purposeful life. Lisa is dedicated and passionate about helping you work with the dynamics of your self relationship and believes this is the key to most Mind Body Spirit disease and illness. Find more information about her and her programs.
I began my daily practice of gratitude years ago when I went through a rough time in life and I hit my bottom. I wasn’t suicidal per se, but I was ready to accept death if it happened.
Beginning my daily practice of finding something that made me smile (which is actually very hard to do when you’re as depressed and hopeless as I was), and a gratitude list is what showed me my courage – and that led me to my strength.
What and who I was grateful for just a few years ago were very different than what I express now. Looking back I wrote things like: my dog made a funny look on her face today when she pooped in the neighbors tree box – that made me smile. … Because of those silly things, in time I started to laugh.
I do have to be an active participant in my journey. And having someone, or a group of people, helping me is even better, sometimes even a blessing. I was on my healing journey and at a point where I wanted my body to be strong again – I needed my body to feel strong again – so that emotionally I could feel strong and find courage to keep trying for what I wanted. Around this time I met a personal trainer that I could not afford, but I managed to squeek out a few sessions with him – enough to take some notes, to feel some inspiration, and I created a plan and routine for myself. This also helped me realize that I once had the ability to do this for myself, only I had forgotten.
Forgetting how to take care of yourself is very humbling. It only takes one small gesture, and then your whole world begins to change. Sometimes people see, and so they help. Others, like GB the personal trainer probably never knew what was driving me those few times we met. But I was with myself 100% of the time. I cannot even begin to sit here and write out the many ways I have grown since then. Hell, I probably don’t even know them all myself – these are the sorts of things that trickle out over time. Making the connections is the importance of the lesson, and then doing something with what you learned.
I still need to actively seek gratitude and courage. I have to remember. I still need to be conscious of when I’m not smiling. I still need to find my patterns. These things truly keep my head on straight. It’s about priority and it’s about choice. Because I want life experience. A better one. I want happiness. I want to feel joy. I don’t want to feel hurt. I don’t want to feel wounded. So I practice – daily. And now when you look at my list, you will find entries like: I am grateful for meeting RB – she is such an inspiration, and because of her I can see things in a new way, and I feel better.
Isn’t it remarkable how you find what you need when you need it, not even yet fully realizing what it will ultimately give you?! Sometimes it may take years and many cycles of something working itself out to realize what a gift it truly is. You do have to be an active participant in your journey, all the time.